The Secret to Finding Miracles plus Cornbread, Figs and other yummy things
Maili's Note: I have both a recipe blog as well as an email list that I send out to "Recipe Testers." I often include my blog posts in the "Recipe Testing" as well as other things I'd like to share. This is a copy of the email I sent out this morning. The list originally began as a group of ten of my friends who literally did test the recipes for me and gave me feedback. As it grew I kept the name even though most just read and make the recipes as opposed to officially testing them.
As summer comes to a close tomatoes are at their ripest and figs are in baskets at the Farmer's Market. So I want to be sure to share the Tomato Technique from the Fiddle Diet. Often I will make this tomato salad to accompany Flank Steak and Baked Potatoes. I know it doesn't sound like diet food but I've lost weight every time I've had it for dinner and it is obviously filling. I have 3 or 4 ounces of flank steak, a small baked potato WITH real sour cream and salt and then the tomato salad. Then of course some kind of yummy fruit for dessert. The next day I usually make a big Arugula salad with leftover flank steak and green beans and whatever else I have on hand as well as the tomatoes and their juice as the dressing. A double bonus meal I like to call it! Sometimes leftovers make the best things! I haven't been on the Fiddle Diet in over a year because I lost the weight and then never gained it back. Perhaps at some point in the future I'll try to lose five pounds but right now I'm content and eating whatever I want so that is great. At some point I do want to get more Fiddle Recipes as well as menus up on the blog but right now I'm focused on Homeschooling my oldest daughter and then helping my youngest daughter with all of her public school needs and busy after school activities.
Figs are now showing up everywhere around the Farmer's Market so it is time to make The Gina Salad. I love warm fruit on a cold salad. The contrast is magnificent.
And if you can still get some of the end of summer peaches I've also been making a grilled peach salad. I use a grill pan instead of the actual grill. I cut the peaches in fairly big chunks. use firm peaches. Then I cook them for a bit in a simple syrup (Simple Syrup is SIMPLE and the easiest thing in the world to make. Get some sugar and put a little water in it until the sugar dissolves. Traditional simple syrup is 50/50. I usually make a more concentrated one with more sugar and just enough water to dissolve the sugar.) Then once the peaches cook for a few minutes in the simple syrup then I put them on the grill pan and they caramelize like creme brulee. Then I put the peaches on a sheet tray in an oven until just before I'm about to serve the salad so they will be warm when the salad is served. I use a mixture of greens, usually with something spicy like Arugula mixed in as well. The dressing is one of my very best creations and has no oil in it. The acid is lemon. I cook sliced peaches and tons of fresh ginger with some sugar in a big saute pan. Then I squeeze lemon juice over all of that. I let it cook for awhile and then let it sit for awhile in the pan. You want the liquid leftover from the pan to make the dressing for the salad. The cooked peaches themselves are delicious and you can use those for a dessert or over ice cream or as a compote in the morning. But the liquid is the precious part that makes the salad. And you can make that part in advance. Toss the greens in the liquid, put the hot peaches on the greens, put some great roasted almonds on it and then drizzle more dressing over the warm peaches. You can add cheese if you want. Perhaps a Manchego or something like that would be good. (And I know I just gave you a recipe without measurements but some of you like to cook by technique. Eventually I will photograph and measure this.)
I know quite a few of you follow daily Hollye Jacobs inspiring Brookeside Buzz blog. She wasn't a poetry fan until her bout with FBC but now her blog is filled with poetry as well as quotes that move me like quiet, peaceful and comforting prayers. Here are two recent ones that filled me with peace.
The Peace of Wild Things
The Desiderata of Happiness
My daughter, Katherine, wants me to make Cornbread today so I thought I'd share Auntie Colleen's recipe for Cornbread again even though many of you already make this all the time.
Finally, I want to share this article from Martha Beck on Finding Miracles. This is an article for all the skeptics out there. Martha Beck is a regular columnist for O Magazine and one of my most favorite. She has written some of the best articles on parenting, coping with life and finding joy. She tackles every possible tough subject with humor and brilliance. (She has I believe 3 degrees from Harvard.) She has a great term called WIG (Wildly Improbable Goals). http://www.oprah.com/spirit/Wildly-Improbable-Goals More proof in the power of positive thinking and all you can do with your hopes and dreams. But the the article I'm pasting below is on Finding Miracles.
This has been a year of Miracles and transformation for me. The gifts that have come despite the pain we have endured are truly miraculous and truly more than "just coincidences" in my life. Sometimes miracles are hard to see but that "glass" in my life is much more than half-full. It is actually overflowing if I can remember to open my eyes and and fill my heart with gratitude for the abundance there is. I know there are bumper stickers that say S*#! HAPPENS and we are certainly know that it does. But I saw another bumper sticker last week that said GRACE HAPPENS. I can give you a perfect example of both. Last month I went to the Maroon 5/Train Concert with my girls and five other families. To have all the parents and the children equally enjoying the music together was a miraculous moment. Melissa Madeline just said to me again last week "I feel so lucky that I got to be there." The music made us happy before the concert but now when we hear it we all think back to those magical moments. But something else happened too that wasn't so great. We got home from the concert at 1:30 AM. We were exhausted and couldn't wait to get right into bed. We opened the door to The Little House and it smelled awful! Horrendously awful! Princess had thrown up five times on the carpet. So all three of us have to deal with the smell AND clean up the horrible mess. Definitely not want any of us wanted to do. So if I look back at the 24 hours of that day the majority of those hours were great and then there was the one really yucky hour. But we dealt with that yucky part and went right back to the magical part. And if it wasn't for me purposely trying to recall that yucky part of the day to tell you my life has a bunch of reality mixed in with the magical parts, I truly would have only been able to recall the magical parts. Because when I hear the music now I only think of the magical parts and that is the key to the overflowing glass: face and deal with the "S*#!. Even laugh at it. It will be cleaned up and over before you know it and then you can go on to floating around in happiness thinking about all the good parts.
And since we're talking about Angles and Miracles I guess I should post our favorite Train song: Calling All Angels
Grace, Peace and Blessings to all of you!
Maili
The Secret to Finding Miracles Where You Least Expect Them
Oprah.com | From the December 2010 issue of O, The Oprah Magazine
Martha Beck swears anyone can become a miracle worker. Skeptical? Give her ten minutes, she says, and you'll start to see mysterious, marvelous, and totally inexplicable events all around.
"I was desperate," said Jean. "My husband had just left me, and I couldn't see any way to raise my kids or pay the bills. I'd collapsed in a suicidal heap, when I looked up and saw my bedroom full of angels. Guardian angels!" Jean toasted the memory with her teacup.
This conversation took place more than 20 years ago, when I was in graduate school in Cambridge, Massachusetts. I didn't know Jean that well, but she didn't seem like a wackadoo. I'd interviewed her for my PhD dissertation on women and social change, and she had recounted how, after her divorce, she'd started a successful small business. All very rational. It was after the interview, as I was stashing my notebook, that Jean leaned forward and said, "Actually...can I tell you what really happened?"
I tucked Jean's "guardian angel" story into my brain's Weird Anomaly file and forgot about it, until a few months later when I was categorizing my subjects. Looking at the "most satisfied" group, I was startled to realize that like Jean, almost all of these women reported experiencing something miraculous. Many of these were small blessings: helpers showing up at just the right moment, or "hearing" guidance from a quiet inner voice. Others were more dramatic. Two women believed they'd been spontaneously healed from serious illness, and several, like Jean, thought they'd experienced some sort of divine presence.
I was alarmed. How could I write about these women without either belittling their private experiences or being forcibly ejected from graduate school? I scurried to the library, seeking methods for studying wacky beliefs. I wasn't disappointed. That day I learned about "bracketing," a handy little tool that allows anthropologists to contemplate another culture's stories without accepting them naively (thus becoming vulnerable to any guru who tells them to put cabbage in their underwear and bathe with plugged-in toasters) or utterly discounting them (thus embracing the arrogant assumption that we currently understand everything in the universe).
How "Seeing" Is Believing
The movie Avatar is based on a reasonable facsimile of anthropological bracketing. In the film, a faraway planet populated by large blue people is invaded by materialistic humans who don't share one iota of the blue folks' tree-worshipping, kumbaya-singing worldview. But one small group of social scientists puts aside earthly customs, learns the locals' language, and participates in their culture. The researchers maintain the nonjudgmental stance that any belief system, including the Big Blues', might (who knows?) be as valid as any other. That's bracketing.
This practice—stepping outside your belief system into what Buddhists call "don't know mind"—feels frighteningly uncertain. Most people prefer clinging like Velcro to their established version of reality. Consider the physician who, in early 2010, pronounced Kate and David Ogg's newborn son Jamie dead at birth. Kate held Jamie's little body for two hours, at which point he started breathing, eating, and grabbing people's fingers. The doctor refused to come see, repeatedly sending word that Jamie's movements were "just reflexes." Today Jamie Ogg is an active 9-month-old. If this goes on, his doctor may eventually confirm that he's alive.
My point is that perceptual bias can affect nut jobs and scientists alike. If we hold too rigidly to what we think we know, we ignore or avoid evidence of anything that might change our mind. And by "our mind," I mean my own mind. Although I intended to "bracket" the miracle stories I heard during my dissertation research, a big part of me actually assumed they were false. I understood how the world worked—after all, I'd lived in it a whopping 24 years.
And then, as I hit the quarter-century mark, I began experiencing things that pushed me to rethink the way I looked at the world. The first involved being trapped in a burning building: I was dragged half-conscious out of a smoke-filled stairwell by someone who left before I could catch my breath and thank him, or even see him. Television news videos of the fire showed me emerging from the building—but my rescuer didn't appear on film.
At the time I was expecting a baby, and the pregnancy seemed to lend me strange abilities. I could see, vividly, things that were happening to friends and family far away. I had visions of my future that later proved accurate. Once, when I was sick and alone, I felt unseen hands comforting me physically. I confided what was happening to me to my friends, and most were kind but embarrassed, just as I'd been when Jean told me about her guardian angels. I could understand that—I was terrified myself. Mentally, I felt like a violently shaken snow globe, my beliefs drifting around loose, flaky, and upside down. I worried that if I truly suspended my disbelief in miracles, even momentarily, even under the principles of bracketing, that I'd never get it back.
Which, I admit, is kind of what happened.
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Unbeknownst to me, wandering around my neighborhood at that very time was author Mary Karr. In her memoir, Lit, Karr describes recovering from alcoholism not far from where I was having my existential crisis. Karr, it turns out, was having her own uncommon experience, and it had to do with two specific scriptural passages a friend insisted she read. Karr found those passages—and only those—marked with blue chalk in her mother's childhood Bible. "As miracles go," Karr writes, "it may not even seem like one. But it feels as if God once guided my mother's small hand...to make two notes I'd very much need to find 70 years later." Karr asks her mathematically gifted sister, "What are the odds—in terms of probability—that those two passages would've been marked of all the verses possible. And she says, Very slender."
I have to say, I quietly thrill to this logic, the logic of probability. In the "hard sciences," like physics, identical conditions lead to identical results: Drop a rock and it falls, always. But people are less predictable than rocks. Not everyone follows trends; not everyone benefits from therapy; not everyone liked Avatar. So social scientists use statistics to decide whether an event is random chance—or the effect of a specific cause. They think in probabilities, not absolutes.
When I learned about probability theory back in the 1980s, bizarrely improbable things were happening to me. But weirder still, putting aside my "I believe in miracles" brackets and looking at my life from the perspective of a sociology student didn't make my woo-woo experiences seem less miraculous but more so. Thanks to my training in statistics, I realized that the odds of these things happening by chance were enormously improbable. Every worldview I chose, it seemed, edged me toward belief.
Creating Your Miraculous Life
Whether you've seen angels floating around your bedroom or just found a ray of hope at a lonely moment, choosing to believe that something unseen is caring for you can be a life-shifting exercise. Even if you're the kind of person who makes Doubting Thomas look like a lightweight, decide, just until you finish this magazine, to set aside your disbelief. To begin the bracketing process, start with these instructions:
1. List five important people in your life, not including members of your family of origin. Did anything improbable happen to bring you together with these people? Write down any coincidences or synchronicities you can remember.
2. Recall five experiences that dramatically changed your life: a chance meeting, accident, adventure, medical crisis. Did any unusual events enable you to have—and survive—these experiences?
3. Think of five important events in your career and/or your role as a parent. Looking back, did help ever arrive improbably just when you needed it?
4. Remember any weird-but-true experience in your life. Did you have a dream one night that later came true? Did a stranger, song, or book ever get your attention and answer an important question? Did you once use new computer software without making 500 calls to tech support? Make a list.
Okay, you've bracketed everything you've written down, choosing to believe that there might be something beyond mere coincidence. But the emphasis is on the word might. Now, stepping into your social scientist mode, review the lists, asking yourself, "What are the odds that this improbable event or that particular meeting is the result of something bigger than me?" If you need help taming your inner skeptic, think of psychologist Abraham Maslow: He warned against coming under the sway of "the antirational, the antiempirical, the antiscientific," but he also wrote, "To be looking elsewhere for miracles is to me a sure sign of ignorance that everything is miraculous." A rigorously trained social scientist, he found that seeing everything as miraculous was only logical.
When I consider all the strange occurrences framed by the brackets in my mind, I have to agree. Bracketing has turned all my experiences, remembered and present, into a gallery of miracles where I wander around dazzled by the beauty of events I cannot explain. You might want to create such a gallery yourself. You need only your bracketing mind, your sense of what's probable—and a world filled with moments of grace, strange synchronicities, and perhaps (who knows?) the occasional bedroom full of guardian angels.
Martha Beck's most recent book is Steering by Starlight (Rodale).
http://www.oprah.com/spirit/Finding-Miracles-in-Your-Life-Martha-Beck
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